Popular Nigerian fearless writer, Nkechi Bianze recently voice her opinion on ‘Bride Price‘, a very popular tradition across Africa. She stated that the idea that one person has to pay to acquire another all in the name of getting married is silly and bizarre. “No human will pay a price on me. I’m too expensive for anyone to afford“. She said.
Nkechi Bianze said…
“Men pay money to marry women, all in the name of bride price. Now, many women are saying NO TO BRIDE PRICE, and some of you are objecting.
They are saying have for free that which you pay for.
The ONLY reason anyone would object to having for free what they pay for is if they’ve got a motive or a benefit they get by paying for that thing, which they won’t get if they get it for free.
I have been saying this for years, both on and off social media. Bride Price is a senseless tradition aimed at commodifying women.
The idea that one person has to pay to acquire another all in the name of getting married is silly and bizarre.
Any right thinking person who is against slave trade should kick against all forms of human purchase, even those that disguise under tradition and culture.
And you people need to stop deceiving yourselves with the tale that it is “symbolic”. If it were symbolic as you claim, why do they refund when divorce happens?
You refund bride price the way a goat seller would refund money to a buyer if the buyer returns the goat for some reasons. This is what you people have turned women into. ITEMS! And you justify this shitty practice by chanting “traditions”.
It doesn’t matter how much was paid; whether 1kobo or a million Naira, any and culture that states any amount of money, items in the form of “The List” which one party is obligated to pay in order to acquire another is a shitty culture.
If they pay all these to appreciate the parents of the woman, what do they also pay to appreciate the parents of the man? Both the man and the woman were trained. So, if we want to appreciate, the appreciation should be both sided, and NON-Obligatory.
No human will pay a price on me. I’m too expensive for anyone to afford.
If you pay a bride price on me to anyone and I find out, I will NOT go ahead with the marriage. If it has already been done, I will divorce you. Then you can get your refund and go and buy a got or a puppy for yourself since you want to purchase an animal.