Life is full of hurdles and challenges and until we learn to know who we need to help us jump over these hurdle and challenges of life, we will also be limited and stagnated in life.
Most at times, we think for us to make it in life or become successful; we must have everyone as friend. This is not true.
Friendship is a choice we make on life’s journey bearing mind the hurdles each and every one of us has to face to overcome. You can never have someone as a friend who does not agree with your vision, purpose, mission and goals in life.
Amazingly, I have observed carefully the lifestyles of fishermen and I have come to the conclusion that, although they are called fisherman, they have specific assignment or goal or vision in mind. Some fishermen are good at catching specific fish whiles others are equally good at catching almost every fish.
To be successful at attaining your vision and dreams in life, you do not need just everyone to help you. You need to be specific in choosing those who have the same mindset and desire to succeed in life.
Some people are just not good for your destiny and it is your personal decision or choice to make as who go hunting with you. Failing to make the right choice regarding your association may cause you your life and destiny. You may be taken as prey instead of a fellow hunter.
Personally, I have no doubt in my mind that, there are some good and great people or friends are there, but there are some serious and negative people out there too who are not genuine with your associations with them.
These are the ones who belittle your accomplishments, ignore you and sow discords between you and your friends especially on social media.
These individuals do not care how much it will cost them to destroy your reputation and hard work; they just go out for it until you are destroyed.
It is okay for them to hide their foolishness and weaknesses in the skeleton cardboard and show up on your wall to do everything to highlight your mistakes, find faults about you.
In fact, having such people as friends will have a great and pragmatic effect on your life, health, success and destiny. Avoid them before you suffer heart attack or failure.
The friendship or company we have or surround ourselves with daily have the potential to affect our lives positively or negatively depending on the mindset they have.
Having bad friends can change your perception about life and the people around you. Some come to pretend to be your loyal and faithful friends until you reveal your dream plans and vision then, their character and attitude towards you begins to fade away.
We must never forget that, our friends do not just only influences our perception or decision we make on a daily basic but carry the power to change us into something we have never dreamt or thought of becoming. Making you or breaking us beyond repair or recognition.
No one leaves us the same once we allow them into our lives. They alter our life. This is the reason why we must be very careful of those we call friends especially on social media. Most of these so called friends are full of envy, jealousy and sometimes see us as competitors to their success. Some of these ones think they own your life and therefore can make demand from you anytime, anywhere and anyhow. Woes unto you to fail to honour that demands, you will become their number one enemies.
You don’t owe anyone your life and neither does anyone owe their life to you. Stop living your life as a slave to others on social media.
Never ever allow your image and confidence be altered negatively by anyone who has not spend quality time to know you well.
Success is an individual race and it must be run with single minded without having a bunch of wrong and negative people distracting your focus. You must do everything to detour negative vibes from friends who pollute your mind about others. Live to learn your own lessons about people. Some of these people we call friends are sometime waste of space and they must be treated as such in order to get rid of them.
If you do not keep old foods that have gone bad or expired, why do you think it is ok to keep negative friends around your destiny?
The choice we make to keep negative and unreasonable friends around is what will determine our next level in life.
Remember that, the dream you have determines your associations, friendships and destination in life.Our tenacity and endurance to hold onto our various dreams, aspirations, visions, goals and principles are what determine the success and victory we have and enjoy NOT the negative and competitive people we call friends.
No matter the challenges and pressures you face in the world, be focused, determined, committed and resolute to see your dreams come through.
Remember that, nothing significant happens to us without our sacrifices, dedications and value of time. The achievement of our dreams is attached to time. So, do not allow anyone to waste your time.
Eagles do not need all birds to soar with. They soar with their kinds who understand their purposes and missions in life. Be like that eagle to soar above your hurdle and challenges of life. The choices of friendships determine your soaring in life.
Ferdinard Senyo Lawson
Ferdinard Senyo Lawson is a Creativity Award (CA-AWARD, 2015) Best Life Coach & Best Public Speaker Winner, True African Heritage Awards (BEST AUTHOR, 2015) and Beffta. Founder & C.E.O of Ferdinard Lawson Empowerment & Inspirational Agency C.I.C ( FLEiA.CIC) in UK, Public Health Professional, Author, Lifestyle Coach, Transformational & Public Speaker and Publication Consultant. He is an international speaker.
